i want more

Before I get started with this blog I need to disclaim the source of my inspiration.  I remember years ago looking at More magazine on the newsstand and thinking this is my mother’s magazine (well not really….my mom is more National Enquirer) but you know what I mean.  I thought it was a magazine for “older” ladies. Case in point: the first time I brought it home, my beau, as if I were reading AARP was like, “That’s Linda’s magazine (his 60-year-old stepmother).   Where did you get this?”

I dove into my first copy at my OB/GYN’s office after running out of their limited (and dated) selection of fashion magazines. Surrounded by sprite, fertile 20 and 30 somethings and worried sick about never conceiving, I picked up More and, as if a message sent from God, opened it up to an article highlighting celebrity women (Nicole Kidman, Halle Barry, Madonna, Susan Sarandon) who got knocked up over 40.  Though tempted to rip out the article, but too concerned for other women like me who needed the encouragement, I bought my own copy and the rest is history.   I LOVE More. The fashion and beauty is seriously inspiring and honestly, 20-year-olds should take a peek and see what sophisticated-sexy looks like – no micro-mini’s or mom jeans here.    Their regular feature “this is what 40 looks like” is inspiring. The articles are well researched and insightful. OK so enough said, pick it up (and no, I’m not getting paid for this endorsement).

In this month’s issue, beyond the voyeuristic interview with Bridgette Moynahan—and her very dignified response to what it’s like to learn your pregnant while your baby-daddy and ex is being photographed wrapping his arms around what many consider to be the most beautiful woman in the world— there is an article that it near and dear to my career-philosophy-heart asking the question: is experience overrated? You can read the story via the link here but just a couple of thoughts for you from my experience (or lack thereof….)

1.       Some of my most successful ventures have come from the naiveté of not having a clue how to get something done (it helps you to take innovative, out of the box and, often times, more effective action) or that the statistical likelihood at actually accomplishing something are between slim and none (seriously, you’d never get into publishing if you are focused on the odds).

2.       I learned this from my best friend Jenn who is a screenwriter and director: George Lucas learned how to create movies by making Star Wars. That is where he got the vast majority of his “experience”.  Women in particular want to feel perfectly prepared before undertaking a job or task.    I say take on the job and learn to fly.    The scared shitless that comes with not having a clue how to do something makes us infinitely sharper and more driven.

3.       “Experience” is the name of the game when you are using your resume to get a job – that’s all you have to articulate why you’re a fit.   In my experience, over 90% of jobs are actually found through people where you have an opportunity to convince someone that you are the right candidate for the job in the context of a relationship.    Drop the resume, get out there and meet people, ask questions about what they do and then make the connection between what you do know and where you have (unrelated) experience and make it relatable.   Project managed in real estate and want to get out of the game? Don’t network with other realtors, network with other project managers.

4.       This is what I love about women and am hoping like hell will be true for me in the context of mothering Meep.  Prepare as much as you can but at the end of the day have faith you will have the ability to figure it out.  Experience, while nice, is not always possible or necessary and if you don’t have it, it’s the confidence (foundedor feigned) that you will figure it out that drives you from the world of newbie to expert and then back to newbie again as you tackle something else without experience (which is the name of keeping the game fresh and fun).

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One Response to “i want more”

  1. Annie Says:

    Picked up a copy and enjoyed reading about Bridget. She’s amazing! Nice magazine but did you notice all the drug ads. I guess the key is to eat right and exercise now for prevention later. Now that I’ve finished reading it – it’s going to the guest room night stand just in time for my mother’s visit.

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